Americas Cup challenge.
It’s all about leadership.
Too many people seem to have lost sight of the need to be organised.
At least to what I would consider a reasonable degree.
If you don’t have a budget, you have no real control over your spending.
If you don’t have agreements with others in your household, then anything and everything is up for debate – ALL the time!
Much of your life will be experienced as one argument after the other, and it will be ‘somebody else’ who is to blame.
Sooner, rather than later, you struggle to pay the bills, stress out over relatively minor issues and spiral downwards.
That’s not the path to personal growth
Neither is it the pathway to success, only failure.
A couple of hours spent with a coach should see you equipped to begin your journey toward harmony at home.
Only when the clutter of disorganisation is addressed can you begin your journey of self growth.
Money is usually top of the agenda when it comes to disharmony.
Perhaps I should say lack of money.But is it lack, or is it poor management?
Remember, that which cannot be measured cannot be managed.
You cannot manage your money unless you have a budget [ a plan], and the same goes for pretty much everything in life.
Go easy on yourself and those close to you and take a little time to make some plans.
Don’t know where to start?
Contact me here
After the spammers have done their childish disruptive thing, we are back online. Hopefully the pathetic nobodies can go back to their sandpit and wait for their nappies to be changed.
Meantime I shall be working on something a little more positive and inspring for you all.
Spending time out in Nature; this time with an Orca or two! Good for the soul.
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Bad Habits and How to Break Them
First off you have to decide whether a habit [or behaviour] that you engage in is actually bad.
Secondly I suppose you’d need to decide if you want to get rid of it.
Let’s assume for this discussion that smoking and over indulging in alcohol and food are bad habits.
Often we indulge in them because somehow we feel supported by them in certain contexts.
Frequently in social occasions, a puff of a cigarette seems to help us keep calm. It is in fact a prop that helps fill in the gaps say in conversation or gives us something to do so we don’t feel like a ‘jerk’ just standing around.
A drink will offer much the same, and a few more will ‘relax’ you and somehow you seem to be much better in conversation.
Food, or too much food, will really sneak up on you. It is so easy to just grab a snack in between activities. I have heard it called eating for nurture not nature.
We have taught ourselves to ignore our body’s signals. Obesity is becoming a global epidemic with associated health issues.
Whatever the habit or behaviour, you can change or eliminate them.
Investigative journalist Charles Duhigg writes in his book ‘The Power of Habit’, that all habits have three components; a cue [or trigger for a particular behavior], a routine [the behavior itself] and a reward [how your brain decides whether to remember a habit].
Scientists believe that the key to breaking bad habits is to break the cue-routine- reward cycle.
Duhigg offers a four step process which looks very similar to how I work as a coach.
1. Identify the routine
2. Experiment with rewards – let’s say switch an unhealthy snack with a piece of fruit.
3. Isolate the cue – there are five of them; location, time of day, emotional state, people around you and what happened before the behavior.
4. Have a plan.
In reality, none of the above is easy if you are ‘hooked’ on something.
In my mind you have to decide whether you want to keep the habit or not.
Then you need to look for the circumstances that ‘cause the habit’. Keep a log or journal on this [reference 3 above] and notice the patterns. What reward will you use to help?
Lastly your plan: As in all goal setting, getting from where you are to where you want to be can be a great big yawning gulf. However, a series of small easily achievable action steps do add up to closing that gap over time.
Each success with these small steps builds belief that, yes, you can change.
This is the essence of personal and self development.
I recall my giving up smoking. I had made many attempts to ‘cut down’ in order to eventually give up. This never worked. One day at a conference, we noticed a colleague from out of town was not smoking – he had been a heavy smoker as we all were back then.” Hey Kerry have you cut down?” We asked. “No” he replied, “I don’t smoke.”
Therein lay the clue to Kerry’s success. He had decided to stop smoking. He threw the cigarettes out of his car window and told himself – and others – “I don’t smoke.” Not I have quit or any acknowledgement of his having even been a smoker.
I tried this a few years later – when I was motivated enough to drop the habit. And it worked!
Now I don’t suggest that a cold turkey strategy such as this is easy or in fact will work for you, but it does demonstrate that it is possible to break the chains of addictive behaviours.
As the saying goes, “where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
For what it’s worth, I took up smoking at age 8 and quit when I was 35. So I had been ‘at it’ for quite a while.
Need any help with breaking your habits? Send me an email.
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Our local paper has a front page article on a photographer who, after 40 years is about to follow his passion.
As a youngster he read fictional stories about African wildlife.
Straight after leaving school he worked in the darkroom for the same paper that features him today.
Now his passion for photographing wildlife has resulted in a [first ever], black and white photo featuring on the cover of the 21st edition of Wildlife Photographer of the Year.
This has been sufficient incentive for him to give up his job and fulfill a dream to build a photographic business.
This is a great story. It epitomises the power of patience, of persistence, of following your passion and being ready to make that leap into the unknown.
It is about getting clear about what you want and taking action consistently until you get the result you want.
In a couple of words personal development.
You can read the full article here.
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Many of our favourite Olympians of the past experienced disappointment through failure.
Examples are Murray Halberg and Hamish Carter. Both athletes expected to do well only to experience failure at the Olympic games.
At the elite level they operated in, four years can be a long wait for redemption; presuming of course they get selected again.
Four more years of training and competition and sacrifice, yet they did go on to become champions.
What excellent role models for persistance, burning desire, not giving in and going for that dream. The epitome of personal development.
Imagine applying that sme tenacity to your own life.
In a recent news clip another Olympic champion Danyon Loader spoke of developing self belief and overcoming hurdles. The everyday attrubutes you need to develop as part of your own self growth as you move toward becoming an Olympian in your own life.
Olympic rower Matthew Trott has experienced similar ups and downs. He has been to the well only to be dumped and and now he’s back for another shot at glory in London.
Sport reflects life.
Build that winning attitude.
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A wee test post to see if after a few ‘fixes’ I have managed to bypass the awful invaders from yesterday.
If so, I shall call that exercise a personal growth experience.
No matter what, there’s always another way, even if you cannot see it at first.
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