If one thing is certain in these uncertain times it is this: There are no guarantees in life.

How many times have you heard or read this old saw?

Well, it is true. The economy seems to be stagnating; major retailers continue to lose money in their quest to make sales. The housing market is….well indeed, is there one at all? Financial institutions continue to fail.

Doom and Gloom everywhere!

How safe is your current employment? Would you get another job easily if you were to be ‘let go’? How long would your redundancy payments last?

Were there any guarantees anyway?

Nope – never were, never will be.

What can I do about all of this? I hear people ask this every day.

Develop a plan; devise a scheme whereby over time you insure yourself against uncertainty. As a result you in effect create your own insurance against failure.

One of my mantras is: ‘Through Clarity Comes Change’.

How is this relevant you ask?

You take the time to evaluate where you are now, what talents you have and how can those talents and skills be used to develop an escape route [Plan B].

Maybe Plan B is as simple as increasing your savings so that you could start a small business of some sort. Or invest in your own personal development and do a correspondence course.

Consider putting a little aside to engage a mentor or Life Coach to help you. Often a ‘second pair’ of eyes can uncover insights that might be just the breakthrough you need.

I urge you not to put this off. It is surprising how quickly circumstances change, and if you are not ready, then life can seem quite difficult until you can clearly see a way ahead.

And as you embark on this self development trail, you, and those close to you will undoubtedly benefit also!

Remember that guarantee!

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In the world of numerology 2017 is a 1 year. Thus a new 9 year cycle begins.
And, if you look at recent elections in the USA; this is certainly true!
And, here in New Zealand the Prime Minister is also new. And out own elections later this year will confirm this fact – one way or the other.
And so, if you have been holding back on making changes or setting goals, then maybe it’s time to take the action; make the decisions that you have been procrastinating over.
I shall be expanding upon this theme in future posts.

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Check this out.
You may be glad that you did!

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I have written about this many times before. The key message is that success or the pursuit of success is a waste of time if you are unwell. Poor health limits excellence. Poor health is limiting.
A key goal should always be robust good health, starting with a healthy diet. Poor food choices are no doubt the number one precursor to disease.
To achieve any worthwhile goal, begin with the end in mind. You will have a gap between where you are now and where you want to be [the goal]. Break your journey into easily achievable steps. Each step becomes a milestone. The more of these little milestones you can pass, the closer you get to your goal.
Confucius said it best: The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step.
Following this process is really good for your own personal development not to say your sense of well being.
If you are unsure about food choices or diet, get some advice. Maybe just throw away all soda style drinks. Limit bread and maybe have a salad made with leafy greens. Go easy on the dressings. All store bought snack foods should be dumped. Drink more water.
Take a little exercise. Maybe commit to a brief walk late afternoons each day. Movement is good for your whole being.
These ideas are seemingly very simple and they are! Surprisingly many won’t even bother to start, which is why, on a global basis, diseases such as cancer, obesity, heart disease and diabetes are increasing at alarming rates.
A good idea is to take some basic measurements, waist, weight for example before you start. Over time you can revisit these. It is a simple way to judge your progress.
I invite you to begin to make small changes today.
If you have no idea how or where to begin, then email me. Together we can get you started.

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Bad Habits and How to Break Them
First off you have to decide whether a habit [or behaviour] that you engage in is actually bad.
Secondly I suppose you’d need to decide if you want to get rid of it.
Let’s assume for this discussion that smoking and over indulging in alcohol and food are bad habits.
Often we indulge in them because somehow we feel supported by them in certain contexts.
Frequently in social occasions, a puff of a cigarette seems to help us keep calm. It is in fact a prop that helps fill in the gaps say in conversation or gives us something to do so we don’t feel like a ‘jerk’ just standing around.
A drink will offer much the same, and a few more will ‘relax’ you and somehow you seem to be much better in conversation.
Food, or too much food, will really sneak up on you. It is so easy to just grab a snack in between activities. I have heard it called eating for nurture not nature.
We have taught ourselves to ignore our body’s signals. Obesity is becoming a global epidemic with associated health issues.
Whatever the habit or behaviour, you can change or eliminate them.
Investigative journalist Charles Duhigg writes in his book ‘The Power of Habit’, that all habits have three components; a cue [or trigger for a particular behavior], a routine [the behavior itself] and a reward [how your brain decides whether to remember a habit].
Scientists believe that the key to breaking bad habits is to break the cue-routine- reward cycle.
Duhigg offers a four step process which looks very similar to how I work as a coach.
1. Identify the routine
2. Experiment with rewards – let’s say switch an unhealthy snack with a piece of fruit.
3. Isolate the cue – there are five of them; location, time of day, emotional state, people around you and what happened before the behavior.
4. Have a plan.
In reality, none of the above is easy if you are ‘hooked’ on something.
In my mind you have to decide whether you want to keep the habit or not.
Then you need to look for the circumstances that ‘cause the habit’. Keep a log or journal on this [reference 3 above] and notice the patterns. What reward will you use to help?
Lastly your plan: As in all goal setting, getting from where you are to where you want to be can be a great big yawning gulf. However, a series of small easily achievable action steps do add up to closing that gap over time.
Each success with these small steps builds belief that, yes, you can change.
This is the essence of personal and self development.
I recall my giving up smoking. I had made many attempts to ‘cut down’ in order to eventually give up. This never worked. One day at a conference, we noticed a colleague from out of town was not smoking – he had been a heavy smoker as we all were back then.” Hey Kerry have you cut down?” We asked. “No” he replied, “I don’t smoke.”
Therein lay the clue to Kerry’s success. He had decided to stop smoking. He threw the cigarettes out of his car window and told himself – and others – “I don’t smoke.” Not I have quit or any acknowledgement of his having even been a smoker.
I tried this a few years later – when I was motivated enough to drop the habit. And it worked!
Now I don’t suggest that a cold turkey strategy such as this is easy or in fact will work for you, but it does demonstrate that it is possible to break the chains of addictive behaviours.
As the saying goes, “where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
For what it’s worth, I took up smoking at age 8 and quit when I was 35. So I had been ‘at it’ for quite a while.
Need any help with breaking your habits? Send me an email.
Your coach

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Here’s an extract from Napoleon Hill’s ‘Think and Grow Rich’ from the chapter on faith:
If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you don’t,
If you like to win, but think you can’t,
It is almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’re lost,
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow’s will -
It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You’ve got to think high to rise,
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before,
You can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go
To the stronger or faster man,
But soon or late the man who wins

Hill’s poem epitomises his belief that we can become what we think about.
I add a wee bit that – we become what we think about the most.
Of course your mind does not differentiate between negative or positive.
So if your self talk [ thoughts], are more about defeat, and difficulty and scarcity then that’s what you will tend to see in your life.
Hill espouses the constant use of what he calls ‘auto – suggestion’ to programme your mind to success.
It is the same thing as the more modern term ‘affirmations.’ Louise Hay is a modern day living example of how successful one can be by using this technique.
Using affirmations regularly every day – in spite of what your inner voice has to say – will, over time help your self growth enormously
And to add further support to this Bruce Lipton in The Biology of Belief has this to say:
On a personal level, I knew at the moment of insight that I had gotten myself stuck because I falsely believed that I was fated to have a spectacularly unsuccessful personal life.”
He goes on: ‘When our uniquely human minds get involved we can choose to to perceive the environment in different ways….’
And: ‘I was exhilerated by my new realisation that I could change the character of my life by changing my beliefs.”
As a personal development tool, using affirmations is one of the simplest ways I know of to change your beliefs for the better.
If, as Hill suggests, you turn your burning desire into a goal [definite chief aim], and you take action and persist until you get results, then is it not worth the effort?
Marva Collins famously said: ‘Success doesn’t come to you, you go to it.’

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Anthony Robbins is one of the great motivators and change creators of modern times. I have incuded a brief clip that demonstrates how getting clear will help anyone take the action they need to move forward in their life.
Here are some insights that will help you with your own self growth.
Enjoy the video

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Something to ponder.
Why is it that the topic of this article Personal Development and Self Growth are part of one of the biggest categories on the internet?
And one of the biggest at Amazon?
Could it be that so many of you are not entirely satisfied with your lot in life, and you are looking for something more, or something better?
There’s nothing wrong with that of course. It’s probably a trait common to humanity, constantly seeking, looking for that little piece of magic that will transform one’s life.
Yet, most only look, they do not take action, they do not set goals [ maybe in their head they do], and so they remain right where they are.
Still dreaming, still looking; not getting any self growth, not developing, just hoping.
I call it being stuck
Then again many of you do take action – every week.You gamble.You place a bet at the local lottery store. Why? No doubt because most of you believe that more money is the great cure all, and all those niggly problems will just go away!
That’s partly true.
What if you had everything you need right now?
Those who are practitioners of Metaphysics often say that you do!
Life Coaches will say it – often.
Stop, take time out, write a list of all that you have, including family and relationships, job or no job and so on.
Then write what’s good or not so good about each item on your list.
Then write down what life would be like if each was to become ‘better’.
Then write a plan – of action steps – to start contributing to that improvement. You might discuss some things with your partner, or friend, or dare I say it; your coach.
Even one extra smile at a stranger, one less mouthful of food at each meal, one more walk around the block, just one more positive thought will make all the difference.
As long as you do it consistently.
Give it say 4 months, beging to increase the amount and quality of each change after a few weeks.
And, all of those small steps will add up to Self Growth, to Personal Development, which is really what those terms mean.
Keeping a diary or journal about your journey can be useful as well.
As always, I am here to help, so get in touch and let’s get going toward a beautiful life!

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I was reminded today that often we get stuck in a situation and no matter how hard you try, you just can’t seem to make any headway.

There is a technique that can be used to great effect to help anyone – including you – overcome most if not all difficulties.

And best of all, you can lean and apply this technique yourself!

It is called EFT [Emotional Freedom Technique].

Dr. Mercola [Dr. Mercola.com], describes EFT as ‘a form of psychological acupressure…’ and ‘This combination of tapping the energy meridians and voicing positive affirmation works to clear the ‘short – circuit’ the emotional block from your body’s bio energy system….’

Medical Doctors, therapists and life coaches can use EFT to great effect – it appears to be harmelss and people do make breakthoughs not only in mental health areas such as depression, but with behavioural issues such as procrastination or even use it for giving up smoking, weight loss, fear of  public speaking for example or for phobias.

Of course you can use EFT as a ‘maintenance tool’ – one that will help keep you at your best even when you are happy and content – your natural state anyway.

Many of you may also be familiar with Louise Hay’s work with affirmations [ You Can Heal Your Life and many other books]. Well EFT is a bit like giving affirmations a helping hand.

It could be described as the ideal personal development tool!

If you would like a little coaching around removing some of the blocks [ emotional or otherwise] that are holding you back from living the life you know you deserve, then I invite you to check it out for yourself or email me.

Here’s to your success!

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Here’s a short clip that I highly recommend.

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